Everyone says, the hard change is 1 to 2 kids, not 2 to 3, that’s easy. Once you have two, you can have 8.
Here’s the thing, I think the hard change is 0 to 1. All of a sudden, you go from being this happy couple (unless you are a single parent, but I’m assuming not for the sake of this post), to having a little person to take care. Gone is sleeping until noon, staying out until 3, sex at 10 am, and dinner at 8:00 pm.
Very few people talk about the major changes a child brings into your relationship. Sure, you hear about sleepless nights, spit up, and never having sex again. But the fundamental relationship change, that is largely ignored. I love my husband so much more since seeing him as a dad, but the love is different. It’s deeper, and more meaningful, but it’s more hurried and less nurtured and worked on.
As someone who is most likely to have an only by choice (don’t yell at me on this blog, please go to mine to do it. Poor Jenn does not want to hear it) it is hypocritical of me to say this, but I’m going to say it anyway-
Once you have 1 you can have 8. 0 to 1 is the hard change, after that it’s a walk in the park.
Jodi is mom to a 21 month old, part-time lawyer, and wife. She blogs at Jodifur about all these things and many more. Please visit, and you will see Jen’s post! This is all part of The Blog Exchange.