That is easy: So when are you having another?
I had so many people ask me this within days of announcing my pregnancy with the Magpie. Days, people! I had yet to successfully carry one pregnancy, happily contemplate birthing a 10 pound baby, endure major abdominal surgery and the subsequent recovery and then learn how to nurse, change, care for and love one baby while having several melt downs every day for a long, long post-partum month. How, why and when would I have been in a position to contemplate another?? Jesus Murphy, even one year later, it seems like an unanswerable question. I’m not about to say ‘no’, here, but I’m not about to say ‘yes’ and I’m sure as hell not going to put a time frame on it for you!
Did I tell you when we were trying to conceive the first time? [rhetorical question only for people who don’t have access to Quarter Rest]. No? Then, even if we do decided to try and have another baby, we won’t be telling you then either!
Okay, yes, I realise that this is – and will be – a common, well intentioned, if not poorly thought out, question. And my real life answers usually start with a good natured [I hope] laugh and end with something vague and mumbly. But, damn it, one day someone is going to ask me after a long night and before I’ve had my coffee. I guarantee nothing then…
Don’t you wish you could have just handed them this??